You Can't Fit a Square Pegged Man into the Circle of Your Life

by Minister Olivia Stith

Before I start this blog, I want it to be known that I minister and counsel women most of the time, so my writing tend to be directed to them. Nevertheless, we know the same circumstances arise in men life at times and the tables can be turned. So please don't think it's all about men, women fit in the category as well, in fact friends and family do too. I'm speaking of people who are not fit to be in our lives, the square pegs. We have a circle of life and trying to fit a square in it, just will not work.

I will be the first to admit that I have tried over and over to keep a man in my life or a position in my life that he could not fit, like that square in a circle. We have to realize that by attempting to put someone for example into a relationship that is not meant to be will only lead to frustration. Imagine trying to force a square into circle with all your energy. Regardless how you try and force it, it won't work. That's reality. However in our own lives, we fail to see things through the reality that the Spirit shows us and try to make things work on our efforts. How many times do we attempt to try and make a person enjoy the things we do, see the dreams we have, accept the lifestyle we in and they don't? Count the number of times you have just given up on what you believe, things you are striving for only to appease someone else. Now don't get me wrong, there is a difference between sacrificing some things in order to compromise in a relationship than it is to compromise and lose your identity. Every person you meet simply will not fit.

This does not mean they are bad people, it just means in your circle of life they have no place. Yet in order to not be lonely, or to satisfy some other need, we settle. We settle for that person in hopes things will fall together even when we see they don't. Now you both constantly argue and bicker, you giving in, He is not, or He is giving in and you are not. Its not just one thing; its many things. From the outside looking in most close friends may tell you to just move on, but you don't. Ask yourself why are you trying to make a relationship that's not fitting to continue to go on. Examine your motives. Are you truly being fair to that person or either yourself?

Yes, it takes work for a relationship to grow, but you never should have to force things to develop. You can't force someone to see things your way, or feel what you feel. That's a personal choice they have to make. You can't get angry because a person chooses to take the northern route and you want to go south. When you keep backtracking to follow them and become unhappy and then they turn around to follow you and become unhappy and then you repeat the cycle. Are you all really getting anywhere? How many days, months, years are you going to keep trying to fit a square into your circle? When are you going to take the responsibility and realize that everyone is not for you?

It's time to evaluate the special people in your life. You see, a square reaches a point and then it turns into another direction. It goes for a while reaches a corner and then turns another way. Do you want your life to continue this way? Are they making your circle continue to go around and around? Is their love never ending? Can you find the beginning and end of a circle? That's how the real love that fits in your life will be on going. There is no beginning or end, for God himself divinely put it together. Even in that special one's death you may have a love for them. The cycle continues and continues, just like your circle of life.

Now wasn't that fitting!!!

Blessings,

Livi Stith
Christian Relationship Minister/Author
"If God Is My Lover...Why Is My Bed So Cold"
"Lord is Boaz Lost?...Or Am I Just in the Wrong Field?"